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I saw this website on Find A Grave, I was searching for places about death. My sister died four days ago from cancer. She was only 45. She was a sister, a mother, a daughter, a wife…she was everything to me and I miss her so much. She was fine and all of a sudden she got sick, we took her to the hospital about a month ago and we buried her yesterday. She said she didn’t know, there were no earlier signs and we are not the type to go to the doctor all the time. I have gone since finding out about her. I am lost…I’ve had my sister for 40 years. I feel like I died with her only I am still stuck here. I know that I have to go on because I have a husband and kids to take care of, but her family, her husband he is so lost. They were high school sweet hearts. He youngest daughter is 18 and she graduates this year. My sister wanted to see her baby graduate so bad. I am trying to be strong for the family but I am hurting to. I don’t know what to do, what to say. Her daughter doesn’t even want to go to graduation. I feel myself falling and I don’t know how to catch myself, I don’t know if I even want to be caught.
R.I.P. Melissa
Comment by Katrina — May 19, 2008 @ 10:03 pm
Katrina,
I am not a counselor so I don’t know the right things to say or not say, I can only talk to you from my heart. My grandmother passed 2 years ago and I never thought I would be able to see the light of day. I hated everything and everybody, of all the people in the world that are doing wrong why take my grandma. She was the most precious thing in the world to me. When she started getting sick I knew something was wrong but I didn’t know what and she kept telling me nothing was wrong. I cried to my sister, brother and mother in January telling them that something was wrong…they just insisted that she was getting old. On Feb. 23, 2006 My grandmother passed away from breast cancer. She knew the whole time, she refused to tell us. She suffered, she hurt all alone. I am crying as I am typing this to you. What had me so messed up is that when she died I was going through a crisis of my own. I was her baby, everybody knew it and the last year of her life I let her down. I was having marital problems and was seeing another man my grandmother disapproved strongly…as she should have, but I distanced myself from her and now she is gone…I hurt everyday for her, but I know she would not want me to stop living. I know in my heart that she loved me and she forgave me. When the end was near for her she had a stroke and we were all at the hospital with her. I lived four hours away so when she seen me come in she smiled an sail angel (that’s what she called me) she told me over and over again that she loved me. She knew that I was having problems but in spite of me being selfish she wanted me to know before she left this earth that she loved me. She made sure that I knew she loved me so that I would not spend the rest of my life hating myself. I was selfish and I thought only of myself and when I realized that I was able to help others. She endured the greatest pain of all, she went through the cancer, she lost her family and she was the one that died not me. Your sister would want you to live. She would not want you the way you are. When you find yourself at ropes end find another rope and keep on pulling don’t let go.
Comment by Angela — May 22, 2008 @ 10:06 pm
My website is a myspace page i created in memory of my little brother who was 25yrs old he was Murderd july 6th. I kind of know what youre going thru but noone really does because everyone grieves differently and its different situations also but you can e-mail me at mmincey1978@aol if you wanna chat about it im me at mincey1978is myscreen name on yahoo
Comment by Amy — July 26, 2008 @ 7:34 pm
John I love you and miss you so much, you would be 48 today and I cant believe its be 3 years the pain still feel like it happened yesterday.
Comment by Mike — August 8, 2008 @ 6:10 pm
I lost my brother in a house fire a month before his 23 birthday nearly 18 yrs ago. I was a teen then and was very close to my brother. He was my only sibling. I know the pain you feel losing your sibling. Regardless of the cause and the age of your sibling, or yourself when your sibling dies, the pain is real and deep. Allow yourself the time to grieve. Unless you have other siblings, you may be the only one that can understand the type of pain you feel. Losing a sibling is like no other pain in the world. One that is not often recognized and or understood. Cherish your memories and appreciate your grief, it’s real and it’s yours. I hope this helps a little.
Comment by Michelle — October 21, 2008 @ 3:59 am
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Comment by andry — May 7, 2009 @ 6:34 pm
Dear Gone But Not Forgotten Community ,
By way of introduction, my name is Cary Ballas, and I live in PA.
I am the mother of three children – ages 6, 5, and 2.
In 2005, our son, Finlay passed away suddenly and unexpectedly at four months, 29 days of age.
Our family embarked upon the difficult process of losing a child, and became rapidly aware of the lack of reading material out there pertaining to death (for children) – especially those who lose brothers and sisters, like Finlay’s two brothers and now his younger sister.
While countless novels and essays exist for adults, few choices existed for children, or even for parents and children to read together.
Recently, my five year old son, Hunter, (and Finlay’s older brother by ten months) and I wrote a story together about our family’s loss of Finlay.
It is being published by Halo Publishing Company and is available in their bookstore on their website.
There is also a facebook fan page (just under Finlay’s Garden) that tells about the book, and how it is designed to explain death to children who have experienced the loss of loved ones.
Please feel free to share this info with anyone in your community and/or networks if you wish.
This story is designed to share with parents and children how our family has learned to very much keep Finlay’s spirit alive and present in our everyday lives,
Yet to simultaneously accept the tragedy that our family has faced.
I thought that it may be of value to some of the people who use your website.
Death is a very difficult concept for us as adults to understand,
Let alone, for us to try to explain to children of young ages.
I firmly believe that if there should be more literature out there for families like ours and yours,
Who are forced to explain death to youngsters.
Hunter and I wrote our story, titled, “Finlay’s Garden, An Intuitive Look Into Death And The Miracle Of Life, For The Young And The Young At Heart”, in a way that provides hope, peace, and acceptance for both the young and the young at heart.
We also wrote the book so that it could not only relate to children and/or families who have lost a child, but also for anyone enduring the loss of any loved one.
If our experience could in any way, shape, or form help another child, parent, or family to cope with loss, it would help to keep Finlay’s spirit alive and helping others, which is what he was, and is, all about!
My family extends to you, your group, and its tremendous supporters, our best wishes and regards.
I have the very most respect for families who lose children, especially those dealing with the circumstances which your organization directly helps, inspires, and guides.
They are truly inspiring!
I thank you for your time and interest,
And I would love to connect with you at some point!
Your website seems like a wonderful resource, and I am so glad that I came across it!
Please feel free to pass our information on to your community.
Hunter and I feel quite strongly that people with similar losses need to stick together in this world,
And if any individuals, families, or siblings could at all be helped by using our story,
It would be our greatest honor!
Regards –
Cary Ballas
Children’s author and illustrator
484 371 8200
Cjaneb877@comcast.net
Comment by cary and hunter ballas — August 29, 2009 @ 6:19 pm